Alone Awareness

There are probably more of us who do not lead the ultra-social lifestyle that involves constant party-hopping and exceeding texting limits three times over. I’d like to think that reassurance of one’s self does not have to involve trying to meet the needs of acceptance through being a socialite – and I’m not saying that socialites get assurance this way. Although, I have met some of those people.

I’ve noticed a Jeep theory exists with people who drive Jeeps. A slight honk or wave to each other on the roads because they share the common “Jeep” bond. I found this out because my dad once had a Jeep and when we drove around, people would honk and wave all the time. What a concept, right?

From the Jeep theory, I found that people who are alone and go places scope out other people who are alone at the same places. Call me weird but I often go to the movies by my self on weekdays because the movie theater I go to sells tickets for $4 from Monday through Thursday.

In those times when I sit alone in a theater and look at all of the friends, couples and family members sitting with one another, I happen to notice that I am not the only person sitting alone. Actually, there are usually more people sitting alone than with someone else.

The part that makes me smile inside is that these loners are probably just like me – they are comfortable being alone. I’m not patting my self or anyone else on the back but I do think that I am a part of this sub-culture who feels ultra-fitting in their own skin. Going out solo feels freeing and the act has nothing to do with being lonely.

Some people look at me in shock and say, “I could never go to the movies by my self. That’s just weird.” I ask, “Why?” They say, “Because how can you go without someone?” I say, “It’s easy.”

College is a busy time for friends. Schedules vary which complicates weekday and weekend plans. If your friend has x amount of homework to do and you want to go eat at Chipotle Grill, do not hold back from going because your friend can’t. Remember this: Do not wait around to enjoy your life because you are relying on other people to do it with you.

While I do not recommend wasting away alone at a bar, I advise you to go places alone. Everyone needs companionship just as much as they need their own time. Walk through a museum, go see a movie, drink coffee at a café, read books at a bookstore, walk through the mall, take a bike ride, get a manicure or pedicure – and do it all alone.

If you are a part of the solo sub-culture, then I’m giving you my hand wave and horn honk. If you are an out-group member, try it out. It makes you appreciate your friends more and it’s quite liberating.

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